There are men that will not be successful with women.
"What!? Are you out of your mind?!" Of course not..
But it's true. There are lot of guys just won't get it.
And it's not because they're not smart enough or somehow defective... In fact, it's a subconscious choice, that they have made unknowingly.
Having something on your mind?
"How can I make sure I'm not one of those guys?"Am I right?
Just relax, I'm here to tell you how.
What I am about to tell you will probably not be hearing in other
gurus. Because it's a very subtle but very powerful fix that most of gurus leave it out of their equation.
First let me tell you about Matt. Well, he's a good guy and likes to socialize. He has taken a bootcamp with another pickup company. But sad to say he still doesn't get the success his looking for; in fact he's not successful at all.
Wondering if I have given him a help?? No. I didn't. An attempt maybe but nothing follows.
There are reasons why I didn't help him. One being he's too set in his ways and is stubborn.
BUT, that's not the real reason. The real reason why I can't help him is the same reason why he isn't successful with women.
If he was only stubborn I'd have an easy time changing his mind about things.
As I said Matt's a good guy, but every time I talk with him he's giving a vibe like he wants something from me. In fact a lot of our mutual friends have said the same thing to me about him.
He always give this vibe of having an ulterior motive. He talks to you like a friend, which is good, but he naturally gives off a vibe that says to me that he's trying to take knowledge, power and fun from me.
The same thing happens when he's talking to women. He treats them well and nicely but he always gives off this vibe that on the corner of his mind he is up into an underlying intention.
That why we don't like hanging out with him and neither do women.
Having intentions with women isn't a bad thing. If you express your sensual intentions openly they'll accept it, especially if you have good game techniques. It may even turn them on. IN FACT it will skyrocket your conversion rate if you do it the right way.
But if you hide your intentions you come off as creepy and weird. Women won't trust you or feel safe being alone with you. You could be the best actor in a pretending world but not in the real world... THEY WILL KNOW.
Being creepy is considered a "
Death" card in the Tarot deck of your love life. It will destroy any chance of success you might have.
So now you know what might be going wrong. How do you fix it?
To start with,
you need to be fun and unattached to the outcome whenever as you can. It could be telling a great story to a group or being a great host to a bunch of your friends. It could also be a compliment (in the right way of course) or a tease that will spike emotions in way that is fun to a woman.
Come out there and start talking to women not only for the the purpose of
pickup and sleeping with them, but because women are interesting, wonderful and fun to be with.
The next thing you need is to start being clear about your intentions. This doesn't mean directly telling a girl
"The whole purpose of me talking to you is so that I can get into your pants." That's obviously gonna to kill your pickup as fast as being creepy.
Just do a subtle changes in your behavior that will affect how your intentions are perceived and if you're congruent with what you're saying. There are so many small fixes that I could write a novel on them.
But I don't think you would want to read a novel about fixing your creepy vibe and then taking the months to implement it that it will require... Right? Don't worry I won't. I wouldn't want to spend the months writing that novel either.
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