Does it ever feel like WORK meeting women?

And do you ever feel despite all your hard work you're not even closer to your goal?

READ ON if you answered YES those questions.

I'm not going to lie, the dating game can be quite frustrating.

You are interested in a woman that has a boyfriend.

Everything is going smooth and fine between you and a woman and then just suddenly she's not returning or answering your calls.

Not to mention the fact that as the man you pretty much have to do everything to move things forward.

You must have the courage in the way you approach.

First off, you need to keep you conversation moving, then you have to escalate physically, you have to get her number or much better you have to figure out a logistical way to take her home, YOU have to plan the date.

Men are much higher than women when it comes to the standards of behavior.

(Let's not started on that...let's just say women are allowed to get away with sub-par behavior just because they are "beautiful.")

It can be pretty exhausting, especially if you're not "extroverted" by nature.

... I have encountered a client that has a problem of "extroversion fatigue."

I used to struggle with that too that's why I knew exactly what he meant.

Looking back I used to teach myself about pick-up, I would go out, talking to three or four women and then find myself mentally DRAINED.

I would have to sit down and rest!

Come to think how strange the situation is, I am supposed to have fun and relax but instead I am working harder than I was at my full time job.

I would go home absolutely dead

... from having a CONVERSATION WITH WOMEN!

Does that make any sense???

As a whole, there is a general dating fatigue. Having a discouraging results, an emotional ups and downs with regards to the hard work and effort that I make just to have a girl to hang out with me or to sleep with me.

It is just like I am having an overtime in my full-time job!

The first time I got into this game I had force myself to go out and pickup ALL DAY for days on end. (I was a nerd, I admit that, and had pushed it to the extreme.)

All I can say is that I have this passion in learning those stuff (very eager for the outcome after years of sensual frustration)

I would push myself like professional athletes push themselves in the gym.

I was working muscles I had never used before, or to be more precise, I was forming NEW NEUROPATHWAYS.

If you can relate to any of this, then you are probably working too hard in your interactions with women.

There are three reasons for this.

The first reason is may be new to you - being socially proactive.

I remember the first time I started weight lifting, I don't have an upper pectoral muscles - the muscle right at the top of your chest just under your clavicle that make your chest look big.

Actually I do have a small muscle but it was so weak that I can't even feel them. So every time worked them out I was incredibly sore and could barely move my arms. And it took me three good weeks to really feel them.

And then I reached a tipping point of sorts, where the muscle was developed enough that I could handle big amounts of weight without all the soreness and fatigue. Your mind is the same way.

You need to push yourself harder everyday in accordance to the level of your skills. Because developing a new neuro-pathways will take time.

Another reason you may feel social fatigue is because you think there's too much to do or learn when meeting women.

Actually this is more on having an overwhelmed feeling and has somewhat a little different from "fatigue."

When you feel overwhelmed by something, it can frazzle your mind, and lead to a sort of depression, or discouragement, which may feel like exhaustion if you're not deeply aware. It's like your body is saying "ugh, it's too much work. I give up before I can even begin."

This will hold you back from DOING ANYTHING. I suffered from this kind of feeling when I started putting a lot of my theories on paper. I looked at my notes and felt like I was looking at one of those huge, complex physics equations.

It was discouraging to think that I had to do almost all the needed things just to get a good quality of women.

The last reason why you feel socially exhausted is when you spend much mental energy and focus on stuff that isn't helpful to pick-up.

99 percent of men gets it wrong when it comes to attracting women. The thing is, the woman usually can't tell, because most men after suffering from a few harsh rejections learn to hide their inner "stuff."

But this doesn't deny the truth that when the average guy is attracted to a woman, he exerts his effort and mental energy on trying to impress the woman, or figure out if she likes him.

Think about the messages we get from the media, our parents and friends, and women - it's the man's role to IMPRESS the woman and EARN "getting in bed" from her.

So Pathetic!

I hate seeing an advertisement of a guy that bumbling around a cute girl trying to impress her, even though he looks like a fool while the girl giggles like she's better than him because she's a girl.

So much for that... what I'm trying to imply here is that when it comes to the matter of controlling a date, guys are being screwed.

The matter of attraction for a guy will be change if he will only takes the time to adjust the way his mind works.

You need to get the most out of your body and mind so that it can lead you to the highest level of your interaction with women and that's what's really attractive.

A GUY AT HIS BEST.

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